it is customary for a man to present an engagement ring to a woman when he asks her hand in marriage. this ring is traditionally gold with a diamond in the center.
i've never been one for diamonds. i find them plain and overpriced. i can find cheaper things to cut glass with. also, in regards to coloring, i am a 'cool', not a warm, so gold will clash with just about everything on me. (except for gold bars- i'll have some of those!)
diamond mining is also a cruel bloody business.
http://www.amnestyusa.org/amnestynow/diamonds.html
http://www.hrw.org/en/news/2009/06/26/zimbabwe-end-repression-marange-diamond-fields
how on earth can something that is obtained under such cruel conditions ever be a symbol of love?! an alternative would be to use synthetic diamonds, which are made in a lab.
still, i'm not much for diamonds.
Saturday, March 13, 2010
Welcome
so, back in 2007, at the age of 25, i decided to never get married. i became enamored with the idea of having a celebration similar to a wedding, minus: the groom, the annoying in-laws, all the overpriced decorations, the fighting and eventually- the big one- the divorce.
you're probably wondering how at that age the idea came about. well, after many failed relationships, i thought, 'why on earth am i settling? what is the big deal with getting married anyways?'.
it seems once we become young girls and learn what a wedding is, society pushes us to desire one. look at disney's unrealistic 'happily ever after' movies. tv shows. the media and society's portrayal of how marriage is a rite of passage in life. the gushing over the wedding dresses and silly formalities, which to me would be better spent on restoring a classic car. some people even consider having never been married by a certain age a 'red flag'- which pisses me off to no end.
as i got older, my romantic life came into play. to be honest, i haven't had the best of luck. the idea of a wedding, minus the groom, became more appealing after a particular relationship in my life ended.
back in 2007, i walked out on someone. this person had moved a young woman in with him and could not, for some reason, understand why i was upset. on top of that, he seemed to relish in the fact that he had been married 15 years before i came along. he acted like he knew 'everything' simply because he had made that commitment to someone. someone who wasn't me. however, as i pointed out to him, 'you're not together anymore. if you knew so much, you would have made it work.' of course, to him, because no man has ever wanted to put a ring on my finger, i was full of shit.
he wasn't the only one, but he was the one who motivated me to have a celebration of accepting my life as a spinster. i took time to think about all the good things being on my own provided me with. i looked at how much stronger i was becoming by being brave to stand on my own.
so this blog is dedicated to a celebration that will be taking place in 2012- My Spinster Shindig.
you're probably wondering how at that age the idea came about. well, after many failed relationships, i thought, 'why on earth am i settling? what is the big deal with getting married anyways?'.
it seems once we become young girls and learn what a wedding is, society pushes us to desire one. look at disney's unrealistic 'happily ever after' movies. tv shows. the media and society's portrayal of how marriage is a rite of passage in life. the gushing over the wedding dresses and silly formalities, which to me would be better spent on restoring a classic car. some people even consider having never been married by a certain age a 'red flag'- which pisses me off to no end.
as i got older, my romantic life came into play. to be honest, i haven't had the best of luck. the idea of a wedding, minus the groom, became more appealing after a particular relationship in my life ended.
back in 2007, i walked out on someone. this person had moved a young woman in with him and could not, for some reason, understand why i was upset. on top of that, he seemed to relish in the fact that he had been married 15 years before i came along. he acted like he knew 'everything' simply because he had made that commitment to someone. someone who wasn't me. however, as i pointed out to him, 'you're not together anymore. if you knew so much, you would have made it work.' of course, to him, because no man has ever wanted to put a ring on my finger, i was full of shit.
he wasn't the only one, but he was the one who motivated me to have a celebration of accepting my life as a spinster. i took time to think about all the good things being on my own provided me with. i looked at how much stronger i was becoming by being brave to stand on my own.
so this blog is dedicated to a celebration that will be taking place in 2012- My Spinster Shindig.
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